translated by: Benedict Newton

I have known Daniel for a few years now. He was a friend of my sister. I met him a few times and I always looked at him with an obvious curiosity. There was something there. A few months ago, when I heard him talking at a workshop for women, about male orgasm without ejaculation, I knew where the curiosity came from: he knew Something!

Approaching the subject of Sexual Continence, he stated: “Nothing motivates a man more than a WOMAN!” He then continued: “A man can learn sexual continence only through the love he feels towards women.” I looked around me, all the women were noting down his words. They looked one to another, smiling and would have jumped up like Archimedes, if the place had allowed it… I shouted out in my thoughts: “Eureka! Eureka!”

I wrote to him and asked him to answer a few questions. He accepted and here are the results:

Q: Daniel, do you remember the moment when you discovered that orgasm and ejaculation are two different processes? How did the idea of Sexual Continence capture you and what is the reason that made you choose to practice this ancient technique?

A: When I was about 9 years old it seemed very mysterious and I was incredibly curious as to why certain shapes gave emotional experiences. I was passionate about drawing and this fascination I had for finding out what was beyond the shape, led me very much toward the shape of the female body.

In my family we watched TV together and I observed that my father had certain reactions, which he tried to hide, when semi-naked women appeared in a film. I didn’t understand what was happening, but I was curious and wanted to find out. I developed my passion for drawing nudes and had the feeling that the nude woman is more beautiful than anything else. All this happened immediately after the Ceausescu era and the Romanian revolution of 1989. I was in the countryside and didn’t really have any sources of inspiration, books or sketches from which to inspire myself so I began to seek inspiring material everywhere. I was happy when I found a woman at least a little undressed: an arm, a breast, a thigh and immediately copied the drawing. Seeking even more such models I rummaged through my aunt’s things, she was a very free woman and divorced. I found amongst her things a small book that had a partially naked woman on its cover. After I copied the drawing, I opened the book and started to read it. I don’t remember the title, I just know that it was written inside how important it is for a man to fulfil the woman erotically. I was 10 years old then. This awoke my interest in this subject very much, especially as my uncle always spoke very beautiful about women and how important they are in a man’s life.

When I was 11 or 12 years old, I found another book with a semi-naked woman and I drew her also in my notebook of nudes. I also read from this book, which was called Tao and the Sexual Art. It was written there that orgasm is different to ejaculation and in order to fulfil a woman you should not ejaculate and have the capacity to maintain the amorous act for as long as possible. This information correlated what was written in the other book so I began to practice alone in order to see what was the difference. Until then I had not had such an experience, but I succeeded in knowing the sensations of my body very well and to separate orgasm from ejaculation. I could have an orgasm without ejaculation, and another one without ejaculating, thus practically I felt the pleasure of orgasm without the need to ejaculate.

After I discovered this I started to train myself. At the age of 14-15 years old, when I made love for the first time, I ejaculated immediately because I was surprised by the huge quantity of energy, but then I directed all my efforts towards experiencing orgasm without ejaculation when I was making love with my beloved.

Q: What does sexual continence mean to you?

A: For me sexual continence is as different as night and day, above and below, black and white, happiness and sadness. If I ejaculate and it is not for the purpose of procreation then it is a great loss. That is why sexual continence is very important. It is the difference between heaven and earth. Sexual energy is used either to “throw it to the ground” or to have the most elevated experiences and happiness.

Q: You compared love-making without ejaculation to going to war. Why is that?

A: Practically, when you go to war, if you do not have extraordinary willpower and attention, you can die on the battlefield.

It is the same with the man who practices sexual continence. He needs to have an iron will and be very attentive. If he loses, all the spermatozoa die also, wasting the vital-masculine energy.

Boys need to become men. Previously men joined the army or went to war. Now the army is no longer obligatory, war does not exist – Lori love, we cannot say war does not exist – and often boys remain boys. Through the practice of sexual continence, boys are transformed into men because it obliges them to develop attention and willpower to a level of mastery.

Q: Why would a man choose to practice sexual continence? What changes have you observed in you following this practice?

A: It is very simple: the sperm is a quantity of energy. It takes 7 days to replace the quantity of sperm lost through ejaculation. All men know that in the moment of ejaculation a state of weakness appears because it is very concentrated energetically.

We can use this energy, through its transmutation, for completely other purposes. Effectively, if we suddenly receive more energy, what do we do with it? Well, we can do sport, build a boat, learn a new language. You can do many other things, but the most important thing is to use this energy to become much better, more loving, wiser, more focused, to have more success, to become better in any area of life, to sleep less. Using this very large quantity of energy, you will be much more than those who lose it.

These changes in me were according to the direction which I took. In the beginning I used this energy to transform myself spiritually and have certain spiritual experiences, then I used it to become wiser, more loving and more vital – in order to easily do certain activities, to sleep less. But most of all I liked that I had succeeded to open myself more effectively and to love more.

Read part two of the article here.

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